This was so good! I'm trying to do a values check before answering yes. If the ask doesn't feel aligned to what's important to me, it's okay for me to say no.
I think alot of us who identify as female, mothers, caregivers, daughters, helpers can identify with this "people pleasing" nature we seem to share. It is so hard to say "no". I have taken the "Let me think about it" approach for awhile and it works for a time. I need time to think through decisions and weight the pros and cons even in simple decision making but as I have gotten older I feel confident saying, "I need time to think". You are teaching your children to do the same. Hopefully, they will come to terms with saying no earlier.
This was so good! I'm trying to do a values check before answering yes. If the ask doesn't feel aligned to what's important to me, it's okay for me to say no.
A values check, yes!!! So brilliant. And why it's absolutely necessary to take a beat before answering.
I think alot of us who identify as female, mothers, caregivers, daughters, helpers can identify with this "people pleasing" nature we seem to share. It is so hard to say "no". I have taken the "Let me think about it" approach for awhile and it works for a time. I need time to think through decisions and weight the pros and cons even in simple decision making but as I have gotten older I feel confident saying, "I need time to think". You are teaching your children to do the same. Hopefully, they will come to terms with saying no earlier.